I hope that you had a hot girl summer and that you lived your best life. I cannot believe that Christmas is less than 100 days away! #HallmarkMoviesHereICome. I had a busy, whirlwind of a summer and now that fall is basically here, I’m finally able to write again. YAY. So let’s dive right in, since I know y’all missed me… ;)
One of my best friends, Tonia, is a doctor…and a fabulous one at that! A few years ago, when she was about to graduate from medical school, she participated in her Match Day Ceremony. Traditionally, this is when the med students find out what program they’ve matched with for their residency. It’s a BIG (National) deal! All their hard work - blood, sweat, stress, and tears - and the anticipation of what it’s leading to. And the results are filled with pure joy! Shouting, cheering, relief and excitement - even watching online, the energy was palpable.
As a society, we’re obsessed with matching - the bag to match the shoes, the job candidate to match the company culture…we’re all about the perfect fit.
In Lysa Terkeurst’s book, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, she discovers and encourages readers to find strength in life’s crushing disappointments. Ultimately, it’s about shifting our perspective from, ‘God WHY is this happening to me’ to ‘Lord, WHAT are you teaching me about You, myself, and my circumstances?’ In one line she states, “I will see the things that come my way as God’s perfect plan to develop my character to match my calling.” Whoa.
Character to match my calling? Now that’s definitely not a match that I’m generally excited about. Who actually enjoys building character? If you raised your hand, you're lying. LOL. But for real, character building often feels like grunt work - the hard things in life that we don’t want to do, but that we know we should do: staying late at work to finish a project with excellence, saying no to a relationship that compromises our boundaries, admitting to a mistake that costs our pride and self-image. I could go on and on, but you know and I both know what character building looks and feels like in our lives.
James 1:2-4 says, “ Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. (emphasis mine)
But what if James is on to something? What if we kept that same energy and excitement about finding the perfect match and applied it to our character development, knowing that our calling is waiting to be matched with our character? What if we treated the twists, turns, troubles and trials with the same anticipation as Match Day, knowing that when we step into our calling, we’ll have those ah-ha moments of seeing how ALL things have worked together for our good - (Romans 8:28.) Friends, character and calling, they have to match up. Our character will prepare us and sustain us for the things God has purposed us to do. Just like a medical student’s education has prepared her for residency, our Match Day is coming!
Will you keep your head up as you press a little bit further? Keep digging in deep and ask the Holy Spirit to give you wisdom as you walk through the things that don’t make sense. I’m praying for you, dear one, as God continues to build your character. I can’t wait to celebrate Match Day with you!
*If you’ve ever uttered the words, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, then I highly recommend Lysa’s book. I’ve linked it above. May it help you heal and hope again.